Life is What YOU Make of it!!!

Person #1: “Hey how is everything going? I hope all is going well with you and the people in your life?”

Person #2: ” It is good. Keep in Touch.”

And then the process repeats itself again with person #1 always checking to see how everything is with person #2. When this happens too many times person #1 just has to stop and not even worry about contacting that person again. The reason why is because one person deeply cares about the relationship and the other person simply doesn’t care. It really is that simple, we go through life wanting somebody to care for us and be our friend, but don’t want to put in the work to return the favor. I have more respect for people that I email and don’t return my messages than someone who only responds when I email. I am not saying that I am a perfect person because I am also guilty of being person #2, but once the situation is realized I try to resolve the problem and become aware of what I am doing when it happens again.

Why does this happen?

I have no real clue why someone says one thing and doesn’t return the favor, but it does happen quite a bit. There are a couple of things that can be done.

#1. Talk to person #2 about the situation and see if that changes their behavior, if it doesn’t move on.

#2. Stop trying to connect and move on.

So now what?

In the long run you don’t really know what will happen with people you want to keep in contact with. There is a very very slim chance that you will be able to or really want to keep in contact with old friends or former co-workers. The reason why is because people change for all different reasons and that person might not be in the same state as when you knew that person best. With that said if it is worth keeping up then do so and if it doesn’t work out then move on. Remember there are 6 billion plus people in the world and you are not going to connect, have a relationship, play video games, travel, or talk to in your life time. So just meet and try to connect with as many people as you can and you should be alright.

The Chronicles of my Life…

At times during our lives we have to stop and think about where we are going, what we did wrong, and how to constantly improve. Within a week I will be listing my goals, vision, and mission of my life. I thought that I had it down, but I had no clue until an annoying person kept on asking me what is the meaning of my life. This weekend I am going to Dallas for a business/leadership conference. I really don’t know what to expect, but I will do my best to see what I can gain out of it.

Work

My day job is actually going pretty well. I am busy and also learning quite a bit about flooding and drainage through computer software and asking questions from experience people. The people are really relaxed(which is scary) and they seem to have a lot of fun at and away from the workspace. I can totally see a huge difference in the company that I was at compared to my current one.

Hobbies

One hobby that I truely love and have gotten away from in the last 7 months is automobiles and racing. I used to autocross at least once a month and going on road trips from time to time. It was simply amazing, but I just got so involved with business and learning new things. However, it has not left me and I don’t think it will ever leave me. I am conducting an introductory gas mileage test right now and will be documented in my auto basic blog I will let everyone know about in the weeks to come. The main reason for starting this new blog is to give back to all the people who I have helped with their car problems in a way that will educate and provide real world applications to apply in their situation. Trust me, I have tons of crazy ideas, people will think that this guy nuts. Also, I have thought of a great business model around this very automotive blog that will allow me to also benefit monetary from something I love to do. There are many more hobbies that I will continue to do, they will be depicted in my Life Goals.

Side hustle

The concept of businesses and the way they operate seems simple, but people can take things personal. This statement is very vague, but true in all aspect of business, whether being a business owner or employee everyone has gone through an emotional attachment to “work”. As I type now I am going through that right now with someone who said that they will do something and has totally “GONE CRAZY”. That is all I am going to say about the situation right now, but trust me you will hear about it. Aside from losing money and not getting the amount of traffic you want coming to your website, people taking over of an idea that you made to reality to benefit them in the short and long term has got to be the biggest NIGHTMARE of business. I can totally deal with competition, shit not going your way, and an idea that was constructed really shitty not working out, but damn having a concept that was thought and planned out gets fucked because of conflicts of interest just tears a person up inside.

So with that said…

Everyone have a good week and try to get away from the nightmares that creep up in our lives from time to time. Remember, they will surely come, but it matters how you deal and get through those nightmares.

Not the best title for what I am going to talk about but yall will get what is going on once it is all said and done. This particular topic has got me thinking quite a bit about the ups and downs of business, relationships, people continuing bad habits, the market research, and so on. Everything is really related to each other because they have there peaks and there lows, but they will eventually end(well not all of them, but a good number of them).

In the beginning every situation is so PERFECT

Every situation always starts well. For instance, in a relationship the male and the female can’t stop thinking about each other. They want to spend every waking moment with each other. The two people in the relationship are telling their friends that this person is so great and I can’t stop thinking of them. This person could be the one and yada yada yada.

Then there is the great “idea” that you see the vision and see where it can go, then you start to ask friends and family and they think it is a good idea also. Then you start to implement the idea and put it out there for the public to experience your passion.

Then shit hits the ceiling…

Each person in the relationship starts to not like a certain behavior of the other. Nothing really gets discussed about the odd behavior and more shit happens to piss each other off. Then the male is getting hell from his friends because they don’t hang out anymore and the woman gets mad at him because he is running off to spend time with his friends. Then they breakup and the saga continues.

Then there is the great “idea”. The problem with the great “idea” is that the person who thought of the idea didn’t even do any market analysis or simply talk to the people who are in his market and will be buying the product/service. Then the totally great “idea” is of nonexistent.

Like I said in the beginning this can be any situation that someone is going through each and everyday. It is always the same outcome: Greatest “Thing” in Life is just splendid, then shit goes horrible, and then the process is repeated. That really sucks because nothing is changing, nothing at all. Everyone has these hopes and dreams that it will be better this time around, but it isn’t. There is a better way to handle these situations in life and they are to really look at the problem, detect the same reoccurring bad habits, think of solutions that will fix the negative behavior, and then take another crack the parts of your life that need help.

How can dieing be turned into living?

So the reason why THINGS die off is because the status quo takes over our lives and we become comfortable with our present state and it is so much easier to stay there and to bitch and complain of things that are not going your way. Remember, there will always be problems, but there are so many ways to solve that problem and to improve yourself for the better.