Life is What YOU Make of it!!!

Have you ever…

Sat in front of the computer thinking where to search, waste time at after you have forced yourself to going to websites or places that do that? The shock isn’t that you realize that you can live without them, but the fact that they are truly a time waster and that you don’t love the things you say you really do. I thought that I would be writing articles for my passion/business website and doing some soul searching for the book I am going to be writing. But no I find anything to get out of that passion. Lol, doing something to get away from something I am passionate about. Doesn’t make much sense, but I am slowly getting to the point that it is now or never if I truly want to do the things I want to if I let every single day pass me by with no activity, no movement, not even a thought of what I “love to do. Sadly to say the truth is that even though you don’t like something it is easy to do, no real thinking involved, you are okay with life just passing you by, and just living the life you said that you don’t want a part of.

Removing the clutter

As the New Year’s approaches I am not really thinking of things I need to change or stop doing, but to really become the minimalist that I have tasted while I was traveling in Japan this summer. As I look around my room I still feel the clutter, the too much of this, the clothes that haven’t been used in months, the cabinet draws that haven’t been open, the stuff. So as the clutter is becoming erased from my life my mind will be clear and filled with thoughts, dreams, and actions of the things I truly love doing.

P.S.

If you get a chance to listen to any inspirational words before the year ends please do yourself a favor and check out ESPN Radio: Thundering Herd podcast/show for 12/06/07 and let me know what you think.

Caring for a parent…Taking care of children…Being at a job you love or hate…Waking up disappointed with your life…Riding a bike for 2 years…Getting stoned out of your mind…Traveling around the world with only a suitcase…and whatever that you chose to do with your life is ultimately up to you.

People may say that I have to do this because of my family, my job, my health, or whatever makes a person happy or sad, but really you don’t have to do shit. A person may have 2 small kids and feel that their life isn’t going anywhere and would like to do something they have thought about doing since they were a young child and uses the excuse but this and but that. But really you can do what you really want to do. I am not saying this is right at all, but I am trying to make a point here. The same person with 2 kids can abandon, give the kids to an orphanage or family, or whatever else and be totally selfish about “their” own life and do whatever they want. Same thing goes with an aging parent, or a shitty job, or whatever the case.

We all have responsibilities in our lives that we let consume us and sadly to say we live up to other’s expectations than our own. There was a quote about 2 months ago that really got me thinking about how I viewed my life and got me reliving my past of all the times that I have lived up to other’s expectations and not mine and I really felt that I let myself down every time I changed my view because of what I thought others wanted out of me. I also relived moments when I did things my way and didn’t care of what others thought of me and man was I on fire loving life and loved every feeling of waking up each morning…telling people what was on my mind…enjoying every breath I inhaled…not caring about the past and future and just living in the now. Oh yeah the quote was by Kansas City Chief’s head coach, Herm Edwards, “In life you set your own expectations, you don’t listen to what other people say”.

Many people have been asked the question, ‘where do you see yourself in X years?’. Many people try their best to answer the best of their ability in order to impress/please the company and there are people who honestly feel that their lives are depended on the answer and who will live up to that and not their own expectations.

There is no reason beating a dead horse or preaching to the choir. All I wanted to do and to say is to give you that opportunity that chance to stop and look at where you are at and where you want to go without others being on your back trying to influence your decision. Remember you were born for a reason and the only person you have to live up to…to impress…to challenge is yourself. If you want to bring someone along, then go ahead, but let that person takes in whatever experience they gather on their own.

 Same picture, different story…

I am in the process of really getting my passion/business blog going and sent a couple of emails to various online automotive magazines/blogs. So far I only got one hit and was all that I needed to really take my site to the next level. There was not much said in the email, here it is…

Quit Selling and Start Writing!

That was it. And really hit me because that is what I have been doing most of this year. Some things have been thought about and done, but there has been quite a bit of talking and telling people what I am going to do in my life. Talking about my plans for redesigning a couple of websites, telling people where I am going to be in a couple of years, dreaming about that open road with the air showering my face, going back and forth about if my book should be fiction or non, and yadda yadda yadda. It just has to end now. I am not going to promise anything and am just simply going to do, do what is on my mind, what I have planned to do, and do things on the spur of the moment.

The page is blank…

As you can see the photo of the notepad is blank and really never thought about it being the foundation of everything. Empty pages become full, full of inspiration, thoughts, bills and rules, secrets, the sewer lines and tall buildings, and anything that we can imagine. It is up to us to what we want to write and what we write is a gift in so many ways to others. Fuck it! I am going to write, hell I am writing and will help dig that path for others to witness to gift that we all have.

So now…

I will truly show the world who I am through my writing and all the other things I will do in my life. Because it really is about living life in the present moment. So stay tuned or just start writing…

Change change change. It has probaly been talked about quite a bit on this blog, but it is what it is and whenever I do see it it puts a different thought in my head and start to reflect on my life.

Too soon for me, but not for others…

I have two friends that are going to get married next year and both of them are 26. One has dated his girlfriend for over a year before he proposed to her. The other is going to do it really soon, propose that is and he has been with her less than 6 months. When he told me this I was speechless and there was really no need for me to try to talk him out of it because the once people make up their mind, they have and really can’t relate because I am not feeling the way he is feeling at that moment. People will ultimately make up their mind and they are going to be the one who deals with the situation anyways.

So what about you?

I don’t know when I will be ready to get married, I am no where finish “playing” and is only going to get better with the new place next year. I know that some people will never get married and will live that lifestyle of chasing women, others it is love at first sight or first lay, but I still think everyone has a choice to make on where they want their lives to go. There has been many of times people have tried to give me advise and I wouldn’t if hear what they were saying because I was already set in my ways of what I want to do. Then again there could be that one girl, that one trip, that wrong turn that will change your life forever and we will know it and we will also know how to response to it.

What did I learn?

We all know that we all change in our lives and we are the only ones that live through the heartaches, struggles, celebrations, or whatever due to that change. In both of my friend’s situations they are experiencing some change right now and will continue to. Their relationships with their respective woman, parents, friends, and the way they see the world. Just by the way the relationships are with these people right now I know it may already becoming to an end. I can’t dwell over this and just have to realize that as I thought that I was changing so much and becoming somebody that my friends could relate to they also adjusted and formed that new meaning of the friendship.

So we are always going to change until something stops happening and the only way to go on is to embrace change, stop thinking about it, and just live. Just live and do whatever we want to, just do it, all will take care of itself.